SOLANA BEACH, Calif. (KGTV) -- These days, the only person who can keep Kevin and Nicole Noar positive is their one-year-old son, Deklan.
Otherwise, they are tormented.
"We can't sleep," Nicole says. "You go through so many different feelings and then the worst part is the morning because you just wake up and you keep feeling like it's still real. You just want to wake up and feel like it didn't happen and it did."
The couple is living a nightmare, just days after they thought they'd achieved the American dream.
They're staying with family in Solana Beach at a time they thought they'd have closed on their dream home in Carlsbad, where they hoped to create a happy childhood for Deklan.
"All of this was for him," Nicole says. "The house, with the yard, with schools, and so he could have a sibling."
But instead, their roughly $775,000 down payment for that home, 60 percent of the purchase price, is now in the hands of a hacker in an account in Singapore. The money, which came from prior home ownership and inheritance, was supposed to go to lowering the couple's cost-of-living. Nicole is a nurse and Kevin is a chef, so they hoped to make the move more manageable.
"It's literally all the money that we had to get this house so that we could have a low enough mortgage payment that we could afford," said Nicole.
Nicole says she started receiving fake emails from a hacker posing as employees at her escrow company and her real estate agent, who was away due to a death in the family. Kevin says the emails were sent with duplicate signatures and addresses that appeared as contacts in their phones when clicked.
The Noars are taking specific aim at their escrow company, saying an employee e-mailed them official wire instructions via unsecured email. The instructions did not have account numbers, but the Noars say the hacker got that email, duplicated the document, and sent it back with account numbers to a bitcoin exchange.
The couple took that document to the bank, which did not catch the bitcoin clue. After the wire, Nicole called the escrow company she thought she had wired the money to, which says should have triggered them since they never actually sent her instructions.
"They called back, they called to tell me what time the notary would be here the next day to sign our loan docs," Nicole said.
The couple is now weighing their legal options and therefore asked 10News not to identify the escrow company. They have also contacted the FBI.
The FBI says Californians are the biggest target of these kinds of scams. Many escrow companies have warnings saying never to accept wire instructions via e-mail, and to instead call. Another strategy is to forward all emails to the escrow agent, not just hit reply without looking at the address.
In 2019, 50,000 Californians fell victim to internet financial scams, losing more than $593 million, the highest number in the U.S, according to the bureau.
"Typically, escrow will send the wire instructions to the buyer via some sort of secured email, so be very suspicious if you receive (unsecured) wire instructions from an escrow or title company, especially if the escrow or title company is not the same title company or the same escrow company that you're dealing with," said Mark Goldman, a loan officer at C2 Financial.
The Noars have set up a GoFundMe to help make up for the loss.