Mayor Bob Filner's ex-fiancee releases statement on what ended relationship

Ingram: Filner increasingly aggressive

SAN DIEGO - San Diego Mayor Bob Filner's former fiancee said she recently broke off their engagement because he was verbally abusive toward her and blatantly sent sexually explicit text messages to other women, KPBS reported.

Bronwyn Ingram, 48, also believes the 70-year-old mayor, who was elected in November, should resign, according to a statement Ingram provided to KPBS.

In the statement, Ingram said Filner's ability to lead has been impaired by numerous recent controversies, most notably allegations that he sexually harassed women who work for and with him.

However, Ingram conceded that she has no direct knowledge of the sexual harassment allegations recently lobbied against Filner by three of his former political allies: former City Councilwoman Donna Frye and lawyers, Marco Gonzalez and Cory Briggs.

"While I had heard rumors that he was engaging in sexual relationships with other women, I was never able to determine their validity," Ingram wrote. "However, as Bob's behavior continued to become more aggressive, standard decorum seemed to disappear. Bob recently began texting other women sexually explicit messages and setting up dates while in my presence and within my line of vision."

Ingram and Filner dated for more than three years prior to her announcing their split last week.

Filner has acknowledged that he failed to fully respect women but he denied sexually harassing anyone and has refused to resign.

Instead, Filner outlined the city's process for an independent review and investigation, which he said will support his claim of innocence of the sexual harassment allegations made against him. Filner also said he has sought professional help to change his behavior and that he would participate in sexual harassment training.

Frye, Gonzalez and Briggs are scheduled to hold an 11 a.m. joint news conference to discuss their next move following Filner saying he would comply with their demands for his resignation.

So far, Frye, Gonzalez and Briggs have not disclosed specific allegations against Filner because they said they want to protect the women involved. One woman told local media that Filner touched her inappropriately behind closed doors and another said that he kissed her without her consent.

Read Ingram's full statement below and on KPBS.org:

The statement I made regarding Bob's abusiveness and disrespect is referring to his behavior in our personal relationship. While I had heard rumors that he was engaging in sexual relationships with other women, I was never able to determine their validity. My focus has been on the work I was engaged in with the homeless population rather than tracking the sources of gossip.

However, as Bob's behavior continued to become more aggressive, standard decorum seemed to disappear. Bob recently began texting other women sexually explicit messages and setting up dates while in my presence and within my line of vision.

Ending our relationship was a heart wrenching decision for me for many reasons, including the abandonment of my work on the homeless problem. It pains me more than I can describe to abandon the hundreds of people living on the streets or in shelters. But given the circumstances, I obviously had no other choice. And without the power of the bully pulpit, my ability to help has become extremely limited.

I have witnessed a severe deterioration in Bob's ability to engage with anyone in a civil manner, myself included. During our trip to Paris, he screamed at me in public without provocation, among other inappropriate and disrespectful acts.

I do not have any direct knowledge of details in the many controversies surrounding Bob, including the sexual harassment charges. But I do know that anyone embroiled in so many serious controversies is impaired in ability to run a city. As someone who believes with all my heart in our shared vision for the city, someone who campaigned day and night to help elect Bob, it gives me great pain to admit that he is no longer capable of carrying out that vision. The mayors office is now paralyzed, engaging only in defensive posturing and struggling to survive.

The work of the people and for the people has ceased. I therefore urge Bob to put the best interest of the people of San Diego first and submit his resignation.