Ask Carley: Should a bridesmaid whose due date is the wedding day be asked to step down?
Last Updated: 171 days ago
By CARLEY RONEY
Q: My fiancé and I have had a very long engagement, during which one of my bridesmaids became pregnant. Her due date is my wedding date! Even if she doesn't have the child that day, she's probably not going to feel up to walking down the aisle, let alone standing for 45 minutes. Should I ask her to step down?
A: Rather than asking her to resign her post right away, talk to your bridesmaid and see how she feels about it. You're right that there's a good chance she won't feel up to the occasion on the day of, but she probably still wants to support you. And, frankly, if you asked her to be in your wedding party in the first place, you should want to support her.
If she doesn't think she'll be able to attend the wedding at all, let her make that decision. Should that be the case, it might be nice to recognize her in the program as an "honorary bridesmaid," or something along those lines.
If she still wants to attend, you don't need to ask her to stand up for you. Maybe she can find a nice maternity dress in a similar style or color to your other maids' dresses -- and, of course, she can still carry a small bouquet.
Simply give her a seat of honor up toward the front rather than asking her to stand and walk with your other bridesmaids.
(Carley Roney, co-founder and editor in chief of The Knot, the nation's leading wedding resource, advises millions of brides on modern wedding etiquette at www.theknot.com. Got more questions? Visit www.theknot.com/askcarley for 800-plus answers on all things wedding.)
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